About CHAIN

 

My name is Katy Zicker and I am the creator of this site.  I have been a Girl Scout for about 12 years.  For my Gold Award Project, I decided to create a website for adopted children ages 12-18 to discuss their experiences with being adopted.  During these ages, teens are trying to discover who they are and figure out where they fit in.  I'm aware that some people can struggle with this because I was adopted myself.  While I have not had any issues with being adopted, I know people who have and I want to help in any way I can.  I wanted to create a safe and open environment for kids to share their experiences and hopefully realize that they are not the only ones with a similar background.       

 

If you are not within the age range, please do not comment or talk on this website.  I made this specifically for middle to high school students because during this time, people are trying to figure out who they are as a person.  For those of you who are younger than 12, I mean no disrespect, but I want users to be mature enough to understand the seriousness of this topic and be able to fully participate in discussions. People older than 18, I also am sorry, but I want to focus on helping adolescents discover who they are and where they belong.

 

THIS WEBSITE IS NOT PROFESSIONALLY MONITORED AND I CANNOT BE HELD RESPONSIBLE FOR THE ACTIONS OF OTHERS 

     

Adoption Symbols

 

                                              The adoption triad represents the three sides of adoption: the biological family, the adoptive family, and the adoptee.                                              The intertwined heart represents the love between each part of the relationship.  Without one side of the triangle, we would                                            not be who we are today.                                 

 

                                         One old story featuring the red string of fate involves a young boy. Walking home one night, a young boy sees an old                                                 man, Yue Xia Lao (the lunar god in charge of marriages), standing beneath the moonlight. The man explains to the boy that                                           he is attached to his destined wife by a red thread. Yue Xia Lao shows the boy the young girl who is destined to be his wife.                                           Being young and having no interest in having a wife, the young boy picks up a rock and throws it at the girl, running away.                                             Many years later, when the boy has grown into a young man, his parents arrange a wedding for him. On the night of his                                                 wedding, his wife waits for him in their bedroom, with the traditional veil covering her face. Raising it, the man is delighted to                                         find that his wife is one of the great beauties of his village, and he notices she wears an jewel on her eyebrow. Asking her why she wears it – she replies that when she was a young girl, a boy threw a rock and it struck her on the eyebrow and left a scar.  The woman is, in fact, the same young girl connected to the man by the red thread shown to him by the old man back in his childhood.  They were connected by the red string of fate.

          There is another ancient Chinese belief which states that when a child is born an invisible red thread connects that child’s soul to all those people – present and future – who will play a part in that child’s life. As each birthday passes, those threads shorten and tighten, bringing closer those people who are fated to be together. An ancient Chinese proverb, "An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet regardless of time, place or circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle but will never break."  Adopted children have a red thread connecting them to their biological and adoptive parents. We may not be able to see where the thread leads, but we can all feel some sort of connection to the people on the other end.